Is It too young?

While it’s still fresh in my mind, ill let you know what happened today. It’s May 3rd, 2010 already. How fast does time move this days. Today at school was just like any normal Monday’s but during mentor group (which is when all year 12 students get split up into small group for discussion), the teacher in charge started talking about this topic that has been running in my head for a long time now. Relationship. Well I am not going to tell you what it means but I’ll tell you what I heard from that teacher which I think is rather interesting. This question was asked by one of the student in the group; “What do you think about couple marrying at a young age such as 18 or 19”. Well this brought a long and good explanation for the whole 30 minutes of that lesson. Based on his opinion, he said that age surely does play a role in marriage but it’s mainly depends on the behavior, maturity, attitude and commitment of the opposite sex.


There is a saying (which I have sentenced it using different words), ‘Don’t expect your partner to be based on your imagination, improve yourself for your partner’. I believe that this would bring the ‘most’ in a relationship. Instead of wishing your partner to be sexy, hot, cool, intelligent, stunning or even thin, it is best if you change your thinking and think of the ways you could make yourself draw them closer to you based on your personality. Equality plays a part in a relationship as well. It’s good if you both share the same interest, understanding and lifestyle. Where is happiness if your partner is a complete slack?
Back to the topic, everyone has different views on marriage at such a young age. Some are against it. It could be because of cultural reasons or even the level of maturity in the partner. Some of you might be scared of early marriage thinking it’s just too much commitment and that once you are married, your enjoyment cuts off. These are somewhat true, but it is not the definition of marriage. To me, marriage is a relationship where you declare to the public and mainly to God that you are ready to spend your life with your partner. It’s also expressing your love more without someone stopping you eg, parents or the public. I think marriage is a beautiful occasion as it is between two people committing their life together in the midst of God’s eye and to the public.


So based on this, I think it all comes down to the commitment of a couple. So as my teacher said which I agree to, “it mainly depends on the behavior, maturity, attitude and commitment of the opposite sex” not the age necessary.